Learning New Skills
I know I have written about the issues I’ve had at work with a few of my co-workers. And I know that the way for me to deal with the situation was really to deal with my reaction to the situation. But, there was something about that which seemed hopeless, powerless and submissive that I could only deal with my reaction without being in the offense. I’m not one who can be in the back end constantly defending myself. I always found myself being thrown back into the craziness of it all. Then I read an article called Working With You is Killing Me. The authors are the same authors who wrote the book. So, I bought it. I’ve been reading it the last few days and I’m learning a lot. I’m not really learning how to deal with the situation with my co-worker, but I’m learning how to deal with other situations and I’m feeling a bit empowered.
It’s a nice feeling.
So, if you’re dealing with tough issues at work I suggest this:
- Cover of the book, image taken from Barns and Nobles.
Thanks for the recommendation, I will add this to my library.
This sounds like a really good book. I often have trouble with my reaction as well. Then it seems to be even further complicated by my empathy/clairsentience because I hear what someone is saying but also hear their true feelings and what they are not saying. That underlying truth is often what I want to react to and if I do I sound like a very irrational crazy person. lol. But I have gotten better by just stopping and putting the other person first. Saying things like “I am sorry that what I have done or said is upsetting you,” “I understand….,” etc. Then I only focus on sending and thinking good positive thoughts of love. Very very hard to do if some one is trashing you. But I keep telling myself, hey you can cry later but for now you’ll feel you accomplished something if you can do this…do it for them. Also knowing that comflicts between people I can look and think “what is it in them and this situation that point to an issue that I have that needs resolving. That’s even harder cause a lot of time I just can’t see it.
You’ll probably find something as you read though that will help with the situation with your co-workers though. It may not seem to relate in an obvious way though.
Thanks for the tip on the book!
Sherry